A question I get asked often is when to order save the dates. Save the dates should be sent 6-8 months in advance, once you have confirmed your wedding details (date, venue, city, etc.). You would only send a save the date to someone who you are definitely inviting to your wedding.
Do I really need save the dates?
For most weddings, yes. The only time you wouldn't need them is if you are having a small, intimate ceremony.
You will have your names, wedding location, and wedding date on the card, as well as "formal invitation to follow" so they know to expect further details. It is perfectly acceptable (and recommended) for you to include your wedding website on the card, so your guests can follow along as your big day approaches.
When should my RSVP deadline be?
Your RSVP deadline should be a minimum of 30 days from your wedding date. This gives you the chance to track down anyone you didn't hear from, as well as prepare your escort and/or place cards.
WEDDING SAVE THE DATES AND INVITATION TIMELINE
I have compiled a simple timeline below for brides to reference on when to order their stationery. There are many different timelines out there; however, as a wedding stationer, these are the times that are most realistic and also adhere to etiquette.
By following this timeline, it will keep you stress free and on budget!